It’s been two weeks since we went to Cancun, Mexico and as I write, I think how nice it would be to be there now. The hot tropical climate, the sandy beach, and even the humidity was perfect.
The trip was nothing elaborate, and we spend our days moving from the pool to the beach and vice versa. We built sand castles, and when the kids got tired, they ran to the kid pool and splashed to their heart’s content.
As with all beautiful vacations, it had to end, and we returned to our usual routine. Yet, as I think back on our trip, I remember it as a perfect escape from our daily routine which up to that point had been full of moving from one task to another and one stressful event after another.
Every so often, we need these escapes, and we should take them without feeling guilty. It may not be an international vacation or even a vacation. It may be something as simple as going out for coffee by yourself to rediscover yourself, and that’s okay to do as well. If you have small children, we as parents (and especially mothers) tend to feel guilty for taking care of yourself, for going out without your children, but perhaps that hour away will prove to be more helpful to the relationship. So whether it is a week-long family vacation or a solo trip to the coffee shop, take care of yourselves. Our relationship with our children will benefit significantly from a parent who cares for them but also takes time to care for themselves.
Shared a couple of pictures from our trip below but I tried not to have my phone on me so I didn’t take as many as I thought I would.
You can’t tell in the picture but our wall was quite impressive.
Before children, I knew the statistics on mothers who
experience postpartum depression (PPD), yet I never thought it would be
something I would deal with. Ignorantly, I thought that because I wasn’t prone
to depression, I am a mental health professional, and because generally
optimistic, I wouldn’t be affected by it. But that’s not the way PPD works.
We all know that having pets in the home can have significant benefits to a child’s growth. They learn empathy, compassion, patience, and responsibility to name a few character traits. Since, dogs are considered man’s best friend they often become the preferred pet for many families, including ours. Like with most things, Joshua and I rarely chose the easy path, and we now have three large pitbulls with two kids under four years old. Every once in a while I’ve been asked something like, “aren’t you worried about having your children around those dangerous animals?” Or we may encounter people who flinch when they see us out and go in the opposite direction. Neither bothers me, but recently I had friends who were denied the opportunity to attend a dog-friendly event because of their dog’s breed which led me to share five truths you need to know about having children and pitbulls. READ MORE
From a young age, girls learn what it means to be a woman by their culture and more importantly by us as parents. Some girls will learn that a woman is to be dainty, soft-spoken, and beautiful. While other girls will learn that a woman is strong, independent, and fierce. If we raise our girls well, they will learn that a woman can be either and all those things and much more. We go on to tell our girls when they are little to dream big; they can choose whatever path they desire. And it works!
It’s the end of the year and most of us are looking forward to a new year and a new start. Many of us will set new goals, choose new mantras, and hope for change from the previous year. Whether 2018 proved to be a good or bad year for you, many of us anticipate the opportunity to reset and say goodbye to things we no longer want to be bound to. While I haven’t set goals in several years I do spend time reflecting on the previous year and thinking about how I want to grow as a person in the year to come. Often I’ll also choose a new word I hope to embody in the following year.
This post has little to do with the New Year and new goals. What I do hope to share is a simple truth for our family and many families that often comes with too much shame to even talk about: the life and struggles of being middle class. READ MORE
It’s officially December! While I could do without the cold days, I love this time of year (yup, even though we only get two months of cold here, but I’m from Texas!). I love the music, the lights, buying and decorating the Christmas tree, the time to see loved ones, the time to rest (hopefully), and of course the peppermint flavored everything. This time is also a time of stress for many of us as we navigate through family gatherings, parties, and gift giving. READ MORE
We’re back from our Thanksgiving vacation where we spent five days in Arkansas. Four days spent in a cottage near Hot Springs and one night in Little Rock. It was just what we needed! I know I’ve said it before, but there is something special about spending time outdoors and near nature that eases the mind.
The trip and perhaps the Thanksgiving season helped remind me of a few things.